Water and Tears

embraces each drop of rain
the ocean hides my tears

In my creativity blog, I talked about the additional challenges we are facing and the reasons for my scarcity in the blogging world.  I am still around, I am doing my best, and I thank you for being patient with me.

Multiple major areas in my life are, quite frankly, in turmoil, and the feeling of overwhelm with all of them happening at the same time is often unbearable and feels like I cannot keep my head above water.  But as I realize, change is the only thing that is stable and one must somehow adapt to change, as I wrote about in my last posting.  None of these areas, not even details at this point, can be ignored, avoided, or denied, or we risk lagging in improvements.  They all need attention, and there is a LOT to be done.

When there is time, I try to apply the tools I have learned (and included in this blog) for addressing emotional and physical pain and anxiety, as this continues to be a very painful time.  One thing to keep in mind that I learned from my pain psychologist is that it is important to have a variety of tools to help through pain and anxiety.  However, even though he has taught me the tools he knows, he stressed that no amount of tools combined will replace the need for genuine emotional support from other people.  Also, it is important to have multiple people to lean on, otherwise, the loss of even one source of support can be devastating.

I hope when you are facing tough times, that you have people you can count on to give you the purity of their attention and compassion.

…also, remember that it is ok to cry.

Water and Tears

”Tears expand you, they don’t diminish you.” ~ Michael Ondaatje

The fish said, “I can’t see my tears because I’m in the water.”
The water said, “I can feel your tears because you’re in my heart.”
Lesson:  We may hide our own hurts and pains but never can we lie to the people who care about us the most.  Words aren’t needed for them to know how we are.  (Source:  Searchquotes.com)


8 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Kathryn Chastain Treat
    Sep 30, 2013 @ 16:03:08

    I am sorry for your pain. I feel your hurt in your writing. We are all here and will be here when you feel like writing.


  2. sondasmcschatter
    Sep 30, 2013 @ 16:04:26

    Just know I love ya & you & your Mother & your family are in my prayers!!!!!!!!!!http://sondasmcschatter.wordpress.com/2013/09/30/the-comfort-i-need-jim-bakker-show/


  3. marina kanavaki
    Sep 30, 2013 @ 16:28:04

    Oh, my dear FM, what a beautiful quote!! I fully understand and hope the dark, weary days are soon to becone happy ones and full of light. All the best from my heart! 🙂


  4. Jennifer Stuart
    Sep 30, 2013 @ 16:42:45

    Those times of turmoil are so hard, and often times it is writers writing through them that I turn to when I am in them. Your very words are such a blessing. I like what you said about having multiple sources of support. I notice a big difference in my state of mind sometimes when I have more than one person as my regular phone or hangout buddy. Having just one person is sometimes all that we can do, but it’s so good when there can be more than one so that we are supported and not feeling too reliant or having them feel too overwhelmed by being that one source of support. I am glad that you have loyal supportive readers, and I’m glad I found your blog.


  5. MCS Gal
    Sep 30, 2013 @ 18:56:57

    You have your blogging support group – we are here for you. I hope that you have others around you that support you and you can support them through these tough times.


  6. Vicki (from Victoria A Photography)
    Sep 30, 2013 @ 19:00:16

    I’m sorry to hear you are still being overwhelmed by the pain & difficulties you are facing Fergiemoto. Pain is not a kind friend and I know myself how difficult some days are (to get through).

    All I can say is ‘hang in there’. Keep the knowledge in your heart that each day changes. And today (with the worst you can imagine) will soon become yesterday. Try not to worry to much about the tomorrows as they are not here yet and can change in many ways before they actually arrive.

    Try to just think about today and you’ll find it’s a far smaller load to carry.

    Love & Healing Thoughts to you


  7. Roberta
    Sep 30, 2013 @ 19:57:49

    I too am sorry to hear of the pain you are in..Often it is in our trials of life that we develop compassion for others… We are here for you to lean on..I will keep you in prayer…and it’s always good to cry as it is cleansing.. (:


  8. yummcha
    Oct 01, 2013 @ 11:28:19

    Hang in there, I know how it feels


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