Emotion: Loneliness (versus Aloneness)


As they pertain to emotions, my interpretation of  “aloneness” and “loneliness” are:

  • Aloneness – a geographical separation, apartness or isolation from other people (your health condition can contribute or cause you to be separate and alone); a mental separation from others (such as being focused in an activity by yourself).
  • Loneliness – a separation from others due to a lack of connection with people, or lacking emotional support, compassion and encouragement.

This first photo demonstrates “aloneness” to me. Even though one can feel alone and lonely at the same time, I get a feeling of peace, calmness, content and warmth from looking at this photo. The butterfly is alone and immersed in collecting nectar, but does not appear to be lonely at all.

Sweet Butterfly
Sweet Butterfly, a photo by Fergiemoto on Flickr.  (click on photo to enlarge)

I used the second photo below to demonstrate emotional loneliness. Even though people may be physically very close, the emotional distance between them can be as far apart as the planet Pluto is from the Sun. They are not looking at each other, they are not connecting, they are not listening to each other, and they may not be supporting each other emotionally. I also feel a lack of compassion. The snow and ice also adds to the coldness of this photo.

Cold Chickadees
Cold Chickadees, a photo by Fergiemoto on Flickr.  (click on photo to enlarge)

Sitting together
an admirable closeness
Deafening silence

I’m using one of my artwork “tools” again to help address emotions.  See my posting on Addressing Emotional Pain #2 – Tools.

Other postings in my “Emotion:” series:


13 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. J. A. Robinson
    Mar 29, 2012 @ 18:33:21

    Your two definitions are very well stated, and your photo illustrations are perfect. I can think of no better illustration of emotional loneliness than the photo of the two birds, who are in the same place at the same time but miles apart emotionally. A superb post!


  2. mcolmo
    Mar 29, 2012 @ 19:53:58

    It’s amazing how these photos do show those feelings very well. Beautiful!


  3. buckwheatsrisk
    Mar 29, 2012 @ 23:23:13

    I love how you used pictures to demonstrate the two, that is amazing! how talented you are!


  4. TBM
    Mar 30, 2012 @ 01:13:38

    The second photo speaks volumes. Excellent!


  5. unwrappingminds
    Mar 30, 2012 @ 01:29:48

    Reblogged this on Unwrapping Minds and commented:
    People generally are confused between being “alone” & ” lonely”. This post, through pictures beautifully describes the difference. Yes, it is not the same thing!


  6. unwrappingminds
    Mar 30, 2012 @ 01:30:44

    I loved the way you have depicted the difference between the two terms by your pictures…amazing!


  7. granbee
    Mar 30, 2012 @ 13:54:54

    Thank you so very much for your brilliant use of nature to teach us the difference between being alone and being lonely! A very important lesson untold millions need to learn, dear Ichi!


  8. LediaR
    Mar 31, 2012 @ 16:03:02

    I like this post very much. The words are filled with wisdom and the photographs are beautiful and sweet.


  9. eof737
    Apr 01, 2012 @ 07:06:19

    You take the most amazing bird photos… 🙂


  10. Sonel
    Apr 02, 2012 @ 01:15:43

    Wow! Absolutely amazing photo’s and fitting descriptions. I love how you explained it all. It’s beautiful! I am so glad I found this blog of yours as well. 🙂 Thanks. 🙂


  11. unwrappingminds
    Apr 03, 2012 @ 01:08:09

    I am a fan of the way you convey your message through pictures. I have nominated you for the sunshine award:



  12. victoriaaphotography
    Jun 01, 2012 @ 22:50:20

    The second photo, the cold chickadees, is really beautiful.

    (and I am often alone, but rarely lonely. I have a need for solitude to think, feel and be creative. Too much conversation, noise and/or people ‘clogs up my space’ and makes my thoughts & feelings clouded and muddy).


  13. Indira
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 11:52:00

    Have a look at-http://amaltaas.wordpress.com/2012/05/21/loneliness, my blog.


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